Day One {FREEDOM!}

Day one of the 30 Day Facebook detox...and it felt GREAT!

I didn't have to work today, and school didn't start until seven pm, and after the last few weeks of go go going with moving, vacation, and working 35-40 hours a week...I haven't had any "me" time. Whenever I DID get a break, I tried to spend it with boyfriend.

Well today I didn't!

I pampered myself! A manicure, a facial/skin rejuvenation/at home microdermabrasion, lounging in bed, watching movies, and of COURSE Starbucks. I LOVED it! 

Don't get me wrong, being with boyfriend is amazing...but sometimes a girl's gotta have some girl time. 

I wasn't even tempted (well...not very much) to go on Facebook!

The result: a happier, more relaxed, and soft-skinned Miss Nick. 

AND THEN CLASS HAPPENED. 

The class was great! It's a Deaf Culture class. It was what happened after the class that ruffled up my feathers. 

 A friend of mine and I were catching up, and she was telling me and some other girl that she knew about this guy she's dating; apparently he's amazing with the only problem being that he's "too religious," because he goes to church twice on sundays, once on wednesdays, and leads various Bible studies and support groups. This random girl, this "friend" of hers, starts trying to sell me on how lame that is, how he doesn't have a life...how he posts all sorts of religious quotes on Facebook...all with an ugly sneer on her face.

LOOK. 

I believe in religious freedom. Without the ability to choose to be with or away from God, our choice to be with Him would be empty. I'm ok if you don't have the same faith as I do. But I wasn't walking around talking about how stupid your faith or your life choices are. 

A year ago, I would have muttered some sort of thing about how that was weird. Six months ago I would have tried to find an easy out. Tonight, I did neither. I politely explained that it wasn't weird, that I do the same thing. I even wanted to throw in there that I was waiting until marriage to have sex, but I didn't want her poor brain to explode. 

She then hemmed and hawwed until she was able to figure out a way to walk away without having to respond directly to me. 

Our culture saddens me. It wasn't that long ago when going to church was the normal thing to do. It wasn't that long ago that Christ and His amazing hand in all of our lives was recognized and welcomed.  Now it's strange if you actually follow a faith or religion, now it's normal to test out the marital waters, and treat our bodies with disrespect. 

It's just lame. 

Anyway.

I DID find an awesome article on Pinterest today, about how social media is wreaking our lives. you can read it HERE..it really is phenomenal.

until the next...

Detox

Remember when I promised that I wouldn't take ages and ages to write another blog post.

Sadly, I have failed you. 

Quickfast update:

I have a job (I'm a nanny!), Boyfriend is FANTASTIC, family is wonderful, brotherbear is going back to college tomorrow morning, my family and I moved to a new house a few weeks ago and I am now in TWO weddings! One in November, and one in July. Both brides are SOO sweet and I can't wait for their big days!

Lastly: 

I have decided to begin an experiment. It could even be a challenge. 

30 days: No Facebook.

I'm sure I have a reader or two rolling their eyes and looking to click somewhere else to move on with their day. Allow me to explain WHY this decision was made.

I have become addicted to Facebook. Last thing before I fall asleep at night: check my Facebook feed. First thing when I open my eyes: open up Facebook on my phone to see what has happened in the lives of my "friends" that I'm subscribed to that I may have missed in the few hours that I shut my eyes. During the school year I spend much of class time scrolling through my mini feed, praying for someone to post something; doesn't even have to be interesting, but SOMETHING to help distract from the fact that I'm in class. Sometimes I check, forget I checked two minutes ago, and check again. Or even check, knowing I looked two minutes ago but hoping there was new information. First page I go to whenever my internet is up: Facebook. 

clearly...

{I have a problem.}

During the time that I spent aimlessly scrolling through people's thoughts, feelings, and food choices on Facebook, I could have had real conversations with boyfriend and family, I could have read something about the news, I could have played with my cats, I could have gone outside...something!

I don't like feeling enslaved to a social networking site. I don't like feeling like I NEED something as silly as Facebook; that I feel like I've lost time if I missed a posting by a "friend."

There was a fear that, as a friend put it, I was going from a "feast to a famine!" One might even call it quitting cold turkey. No, I'm still on Instagram (@miss_cbow) and Pinterest, among other sites, hoping the blow of the loss of facebook will be lessoned..

So! Starting tomorrow, monday morning, I will be deleting the Facebook application on my phone, and (POSSIBLY, we'll see) changing my password to a secret, boyfriend picked password, and then documenting the 30 day self-imposed challenge on this blog!

I can do this. 

Watch me succeed.

{To those who may be offended by my use of the term addiction, I mean no disrespect, and I apologize if you were offended. I won't change it, but I am sorry if it bothers you.}

my sweet man and I <3 td="td">

Boyfriend and Kitty Newman taking a nap