I am kind of afraid to see the last date that I wrote a blog post, 'cause I know it will be a depressingly long time ago.
LIFE'S JUST BEEN SUPAH CRAY OKAY?!
{and yeah, ^that did just happen}
Boyfriend moved from an hour away in Oceanside to 7 minutes away, {which I LOVE} My grandfather has been in and out of the hospital due to falling and breaking his arm, {he seems to forget he's in his 80s} my grandmother was in the hospital, I got in a car accident, school has been absolute insanity, and recently I've been so sick I was questioning whether or not I was the walking dead and NOW boyfriend is sick.
no excuse.
Let's chat about boyfriend moving :) cause it made me the happiest!
For the first 9 months or so of our relationship, he {being a Marine} lived on base at Camp Pendleton in Oceanside. I live {on a rare no traffic day} 50 minutes/1 hour away. He was getting out, and needed to have a place to live...I was afraid he wouldn't be able to find something in his budget and would have to go back to Pennsylvania; where he is originally from/where his parents still love.
that would have sucked!!
Luckily, God pulled through and provided an awesome apartment exactly 7 minutes away from my house. He started with NO furniture at all, {meaning he was sleeping on a friend's air mattress!} We've been able to slowly troll craigslist and purchase super cheap stuff...all we need now is a bedframe so the mattress/boxspring isn't sitting on the ground!
now here's where the rant starts.
Every time he or I would tell someone that he was moving or I was moving him or....whatever the conversation topic was, just about EVERYONE assumed I was living with him. I can not tell you how many people either assumed we were living together or asked if I was moving in. When I said, no, I don't want to move in with him until we're married...I got the weirdest looks.
When did it become a norm that people would automatically be living together? Why is it SO weird that I don't want to live with him until we're married?
Look, if that's what you decide to do...whatevs. I have a BUNCH of friends who move in with their boyfriend/girlfriend, some after only dating for a few months. I'm not judging at all.
Here's my thing:
The divorce rate in this country is over 50%.
50% guys.
That's ridiculous! That is SO many people giving up on their marriages!
My plan: to never divorce. I know marriage is hard. Whoever thinks it isn't is plain stupid. But being married is hard enough without making it even more complicated before it even HAPPENS!
I had one guy ask me, (rather rudely actually)
"Well if you guys get married without living together first, how will you know the marriage will work?"
I'm not going to do a trial period, I'm not going to do a prenup, I'm not going to give myself any room for failure, because FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION. It will work because we're not going to be stupid about getting married too soon, {learned my lesson about that...read this post to know more} we LOVE each other {why in the world would I want to wake up next to him every day for the rest of my life if I didn't love him?!} and do you really think living together before will make it so the marriage will work?
There was a time when living together before marriage wasn't as common as it is today...and the divorce rate was SO much smaller...just sayin'
I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if people weren't so weirded out that I don't want to live with him until then...or if they weren't so rude/judgmental about it.
ahhhhh.
anywho. Don't worry. I won't leave you alone without me for so long again. :)
have a lovely week angel faces
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